Carrying a Theme Throughout Your Event

We're in the middle of planning a wedding, a bridal shower and a birthday party for a two-year old. All are happening within eight days of each other. All have something that will tie the various components of the event: a theme.

The wedding has a theme that incorporates blue and orange, but it also has a rustic feel. It's being held at the bride and groom's home and they are incorporating their theme with decorations. The theme was chosen right after they began discussing their big day. When I asked them if they had a theme, they didn't want to incorporate a typical "theme," however, I asked them if there were colors or other items important to them and they both really like the color cobalt. After consulting Pinterest, they were excited to choose orange as the complementing color.

For the bridal shower, an initial theme of "girls day at the spa" changed quickly once we found out that our in-home options were already booked. To ensure this was a personalized party that recognized the bride, the theme became her honeymoon locale. (The details are a surprise, but we'll post pics after the event.)

A birthday party for a two-year old can be low-key or a hands-down blow out that the Real Housewives would be envious of. A nice compromise was made and a low-key themed event was decided upon. This little boy absolutely LOVES trains. Thomas the Train, model trains, freight trains, passenger trains; it doesn't matter, he loves trains. We created a board on Pinterest to decide which details to incorporate into the big day including a bunting, personalized invites and envelopes, a welcome sign, and food have all been planned out. We'll post pictures from that event as well.

Just remember to think about all the details and how to incorporate your theme. You set the tone with the save the date or the invite and end with a favor or electronic follow-up with photos to reminisce on your fun event.

Wedding: Choosing a Venue

One of the first things that you'll do as part of wedding planning is to choose your ceremony and reception venue(s). As exciting as venue searching is, one of the things that will determine whether you can or can't use a venue (besides budget!) is the number of people on your invite list. It's okay to research, visit and shortlist your venues, but you also need to finalize your invite list before committing to a venue. A lot of newly engaged couples have a number in their heads about how many people they'll be inviting, but until they actually start writing down all the people they want to invite, that original number is usually a lot lower than the invitation list.

A general rule is the number of invitations you send out is about the total number of people that will RSVP for your wedding. For instance, if you send out 100 invitations that invites a total of 175 people, you will likely get around 100 total people (plus or minus 10%) that RSVP. Obviously this is a general rule and some factors will affect the number; things like whether your invitees are mostly from in town (likely will have more people RSVP) or if you're having a destination wedding (likely will have less people RSVP). No matter what the situation, just make sure that you're overestimating the number of potential RSVPs when you decide on your final venue.

This is a good rule to help you estimate whether the venue you've fallen in love with will even be close in having the necessary capacity to house your family and friends as they celebrate your special day with you!